Good communication is the key to any healthy relationship. Without good communication a relationship will suffer and probably phase out. When you were a baby the extent of your growth and development relied on human interaction and quality communication.

Good communication requires three key skills:

1) Taking the time to listen attentively.
2) Expressing your feelings timely.
3) Accepting the other person’s opinion/s and feelings; and the ability to agree to disagree if necessary.

The following style of communication/s will usually be detrimental to a relationship:

Closed questions.
Giving the solution as you see it instead of listening.

The most important relationship of all is the relationship with yourself. Sometimes our internal dialogue can take the path of self judging, self blaming, self criticising, and more, if we do not feel good about ourselves. Not feeling good about ourselves can be for many different reasons. If we do not feel good about ourselves then how will we feel good about our relationships with others and thus the outside world, as we are part of that.

The key to enhancing relationships is working on the relationship with yourself ultimately. Sometimes we can be very harsh on ourselves depending upon our past experiences, and we can carry core negative beliefs forward about ourselves that are untrue.

Therapy allows you to explore your truer self and your relationships, i.e. your inside world and outside world, in a safe space that is warm and professional, where the professional you choose to work with has no agenda and will focus on you.

Bullying and harassment:
Were you bullied as a child? Do you think this maybe happening to you now maybe in another relationship or relationships as it happened back then?
If you are reading this then I suspect you do, or know someone who you feel is. Bullying and / or harassment is very damaging to the person who is suffering and can severely effect a person’s mental and physical health. As well as being a qualified mental health practitioner, I also have training and experience acting in the role of a Union Rep. There is always something you can do. Two heads are always better than one. The right support is key. Call me to discuss further in complete confidence, and with no obligation, on 07950 906421 so I can help you to gain some insight into your way forward. I will be delighted to hear from you.
Domestic Violence:
Are you living in fear right now or know somebody who is? Domestic violence can be either emotional, mental and physical or all of that and more. If you feel you would like to discuss in complete confidence your personal situation with a mental health professional, call me on 07950 906421. I will be delighted to hear from you.

Abuse & Domestic Violence:
If you suspect you are currently in an abusive relationship or experiencing domestic violence; emotionally and/or physically therapy can help you verify your own feelings and situation.
If you feel stuck in a past abusive relationship where you are finding it hard to move now forward therapy can help you to take control of your future.
In either of the above you may find yourself doubting your situation, your memories, yourself in relationships, with internal conflict within the relationship you have with yourself, where you feel you are repeatedly going around in circles.

If you have noticed that your relationships have a repeated negative cycle then perhaps its time to look closer at the relationship you have with yourself.

Please feel free to take advantage of the FREE TELEPHONE CONSULTATION I offer; and contact me to discuss your personal current situation so that you can discuss your therapeutic pathway forward on 07950 906421 

Kind Regards